The Benefits Of True Self Love

Dear Friend,

The Benefits of True Self Love

I know… Self Love is often misunderstood and has the reputation of being for the rich and selfish –  even sounds dirty to some. Wrong! Most of us don’t know the benefits of true Self Love.
It is actually the lack of Self Love that creates selfishness and is the cause of so much suffering in the world. 

Self Love is not just the fluffy stuff, eating what you like because you deserve it, taking long baths or being selfish with a small s. I am not at all agains long baths, massages, yummie food and a good life . I LOVE it just as much as we all do and I think it is good to enjoy the Sweet things in life. Why else are we here, if not to enjoy it all?

Those wonderful behaviors are byproducts of Self Love. Not the goal itself.

I spell Self Love with a capitol S, and refer it to my True Self, the One that creates, maintains and sustains me. My Essence and Beingness that wants to express itself as me and you in its full glory without the ‘little s – self’ diminishing it or getting in its way.

But that’s what I have done most of my life: block my true expression and fulfillment, the way my Divine Expression does it naturally.

Lack of Self Love is this block that covers true Love – our natural Being, essence and quality.

Self Love is Not the goal in itself. The Goal – Love – is already here lovingly waiting for you and I to let it in. I guess the goal is to stop resisting who you already are and start Being You as a pure expression of the Divine? What do you think?

I would like to share a little about the benefit of Self Love so you don’t ever want to ‘not Love yourSelf’ again. It won’t make sense anymore once you understand the benefits of Self Love.
Most problems in our lives, all the way from relationship problems, lack of fulfillment, anxiety, anger, drug and alcohol abuse, overeating and on and on it goes, are often caused by us, consciously or unconsciously, rejecting ourselves. These rejected parts hurt because they are cut off from Love – by you and by me. Ouch!
So it makes sense to apply Self Love to bring all these disowned parts home again, which will start eliminating most of the problems we have.

I don’t say this lightly! This is not fluff. This is REAL! The bottom line problem in the world is that we reject most of ourselves and by doing that we cut ourselves off from the natural fulfilling Flow of Love and everything that comes with it to make us feel happy, Loved and fulfilled on all levels.

Here are a few a areas to consider:

1. Relationships: your relationships will improve or dissolve when you start Loving yourSelf. You will simply not want to engage – or put up with things that you do now because you Know it is not Loving to yourSelf – nor your partner for that matter. When you stop engaging in what you know in your heart is not Loving, you open up the door for Love to come in. You may experience a change in behavior in your partner, because you changed your behavior.Or you may break up because your new found Love with yourSelf is so much more attractive than the cookie crumbs that kept you starving. Maybe a new Love magically appears to match your openness to your own Love. And maybe a satisfying relationship with just you as a single Self Loving Being.
2. Body: When you start Loving all that you are, your body is going to LOVE you for it. It can finally relax. Now you are able to hear what your beautiful body really wants to eat for health, vitality and vibrancy. That is very different from stuffing the painful emotions lacking Self Love. Once those emotions are healing through the simple act of Self Love, a whole new dialog can take place. As you tune in to your body, you’ll know what it needs and little by little you will experience more energy, more joy and more fulfillment.
3. God-connection: In my experience Self Love is the fast-lane-bridge between ‘me and God.’ And here is why: When I had one of my first awakenings many years ago, I realized that Love is all there is, and later I realized that we can divide it up in Conscious Love and unconscious Love. We are the ones who can make the unconscious Love Conscious by bringing Conscious Love to all the areas that we have rejected and disowned in ourselves – the unconsciously Loved places in us.
   Self Love will naturally bridge the gap between the seeming two (me and God) and bring it all back into One – One Love – One Ocean of Love where everything is included and nothing is disowned or rejected.
   Self Love is POWERFUL medicine and heals the split we ourselves have created by cutting ourselves – any part of ourselves off from Love – God.
   So if Love is all there is, it is up to us to consciously bring this Love to everything that is not conscious of it yet. It starts with Self Love.
4. Purpose: Once we are flowing as Love inside again, without any closed doors to keep Love out, we are Being Lived by Love and naturally bring Love to the world where most still operates as unconscious Love. So since Love is all there is, Love must be everyOne’s Purpose and by first bringing Love to all of who we are, including all the places we have been excluding, we become our Purpose and the Solution to the world’s problems: Lack of Love.
   Do you think that lack of Love is the reason we have all the problems? Could it be that if people experienced themselves as Love, they would stop arguing, fighting, stealing, cheating, competing, comparing, chasing success, money, status, and instead start sharing, supporting and caring for each other?
   I think so. It is one of my ‘things’ in the world that I cannot get away from.
   Well, if you start Loving yourSelf first, and walk out into the world as a vessel filled with Love, overflowing Love everywhere you go, not needing to get anything, but instead give and share it, then those in need will feel that and you have just fulfilled a need in the world. Your purpose may morph into a specific message, product, talk or outlet that you can put a name on, such as I am a …., who ….. Bingo your purpose is clear and as long as you keep bringing Love to what you do by BEING it, you are always on Purpose.
5. Peace: When you are not fighting, judging, criticizing, rejecting or resisting yourSelf, you are naturally at Peace inside. You experience the peace you thought you needed to get by doing/being something other than you are. So you can finally relax and enjoy your Life, while ‘doing the Love’ thing in your life by Being it. Isn’t Peace what you want deep inside? Well, Self Love is the best Peace Pill around, and it is free and unlimited as long as you take a good daily dose of it until you have healed and transformed all the places inside of you that were on the ‘unconscious Love’ side.
6. Fulfillment: When you get out of the natural Flow that fulfills your life on all levels, you experience the Fulfillment you have been trying to make happen. It is already Here waiting for you inside your Heart. Listen to it, take it seriously, and open the door for it to come in/out. Then take the steps that it asks you to take to make it manifest in the world, while always letting your Heart lead your actions. When you move away from the inspiration in your Heart, you close the door again. Just standing in the doorway of your heart, receiving it’s inspiration and following it, is very powerful and the only way ‘It can come through.’My Heart longs for ease and effortlessness. Therefore I need to let all my actions be guided and lead by this. If I start efforting without the inspiration in my Heart, I just closed the door again and have to suffer the consequences.

   Please let me know how you get in your own way, and how you get out of your own way again. We are all moving out of the veil of illusion and can use each others’ inspiration to keep moving without staying stuck in something that will soon only be available in our history books

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Wednesday 6/18/14 at 3PM PDT. We’ll cover these benefits of Self Love and help strengthen our commitment to the new world we are all feeling is upon us.
You are always welcome to leave me a message and share your own experience and insights about this.
I always love to hear from you.

You can learn more about the benefits of Self Love through my work as a Self-Love Mystic & Mentor at Divine Feminine Flow. If you are in need of support and mentoring how to Love yourSelf, feel free to contact me for a free 30 min. Discovery Session to learn if my Self Love Mentoring can help you become your own best Friend and advocate. Or, a really good way to start and learn a little more about what I do, is to download my free e-book, 5 Steps To Dive Into The Divine Feminine Flow.