Dear Friend,
In my Heart I am a gardener and know that if I overlook a weed, no matter how small, it will eventually grow into a full plant and can take away the needed sun or nutrient from the plants I want to grow for my nourishment.
This picture above totally relates to the subject of how to avoid a spiritual bypass.
What Is A Spiritual Bypass Anyway?
To me a spiritual bypass is a mental skipping by emotions, feelings and human traits without embodying the awakening of Oneness and Love into all aspects of life. If you have been around someone who did that, you’ll know exactly what it is.
After an awakening – glimpse or explosion – into your true nature it is not uncommon to use this realization to justify unloving, uncaring behaviors to avoid exposing any unwanted feelings and memories inside that have been suppressed and imprisoned in shame – and certainly don’t match up to the initial awakening.
So even though this initial awakening experience is valid, powerful and often life changing, it is only partial (intellectual) until it is embodied and lived in all areas of life.
I experienced this kind of spiritual bypass from someone in my life once and suffered greatly being on the receiving end of it. The realization and consequent behavior didn’t match. It was deeply confusing and threw me into a spin that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. The gift that I received from being in that situation, helped me become very attuned to myself or anyone I assist in their unfolding awakening, when they leave their direct experience and enter a state of separation and justification. The pain of course, is an invitation into deeper liberation, love and joy when it is met with Love.
You Can’t Bypass Unresolved Trauma
I saw that such behavior comes from unresolved trauma – too painful to deal with, and that the spiritual realization, no matter how big or small, can be a seemingly safe state to hide behind. But it doesn’t work. It doesn’t bring peace, fulfillment or happiness when you constantly need to hide something about yourself behind your spiritual mask. And it certainly doesn’t make you an avenue for more Love in the world. When you make space for all of yourSelf through Self Love, as I so often write about, an awakening or realization has the strong potential to raise the frequency in the world to a higher state of Love and Expression.
The Steps That Do Work
You probably know me well enough by now that Self Love is really the only solution to help integrate every rejected and disowned part of us, back into the Ocean of Loving Oneness. No drop can be left behind, especially not the ones that feel hurt, shamed or abandoned.
All these little innocent disowned ‘drops’ want to enjoy the sweetness outside the veil of illusion too. And only you and I can make that happen. As far as I am concerned this is what we came here for. It turned out to be my calling in life. Lucky me!
Let me share a few steps with you to make sure ALL of you is invited back into the warm pool of Oneness:
- Willingness and openness to recognize where you are identified in the veil by your resisting, rejecting, judging or shaming any part of you. What part do you keep out? What part are you ashamed of?
- Getting help to recognize it can be Key! It is hard to see what you hide from yourself! (Remember that you can always sign up for a free 30 min Discovery Session with me if you need support)
- The ALL (Allow, Listen, Love) formula and Self Love are the means to get out of the veil and Listen to what these parts need to relax back into the pool. (If you haven’t yet, please download my free ebook Five Steps To Dive Into The Divine Feminine Flow to learn more about ALL)
- Now that you are not resisting yourself anymore, you will be able to give to yourself what you or others have denied yourself.
That’s when it get fun because instead of spending your precious energy on resisting, you can engage in loving …
How To Avoid A Spiritual Bypass
Doesn’t it feel more wholesome to include, listen and love than to resist, reject and disown? True embodiment is the willingness to feel it all, meet it all, and bring Love to it all, so that Love fills all space, and then of course nothing needs to be transcended. No bypassing. Just including, integrating with Love and effortlessly moving on from the veil without one arm or leg still stuck in it.
Nothing left behind. Everything brought home with Love, by Love, to Love. What is there to bypass?
I Am Already Pre-Approved By Me
When I approve of all of me, I am pre-approved and don’t need to hide myself. I am filled with Love and Presence. Confidence and conviction replaces the old programs of unworthiness, shame and ‘not OK to be me’, and makes it so easy to say No to these unkind, mean and offensive voices that only know how to tell me lies about myself. I just say No, because I Love all of mySelf and know that I am worthy, lovable and beyond good enough. I am pre-approved and have no more interest in engaging in these unloving thoughts and now have the power to leave them behind.
This is not bypassing. I am not leaving any part of myself behind. I leave behind the mean voices that kept me in pain and shame convincing me that I needed to hide that from the world.
You can learn more about my work as a Self-Love Mystic & Mentor at Divine Feminine Flow. Are you a in need of support or confirmation or pre-approval of YOU? Feel free to contact me for a free 30 min. Discovery Session to learn if my Self Love Mentoring can help you make this transition into your Heart. Or, a really good way to start and learn a little more about what I do, is to download my free e-book, 5 Steps To Dive Into The Divine Feminine Flow which will help you move into the 10 Loving Permissions.
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