She said it so often: “I can’t do it! I can’t do anything!” Even while she was still quite capable of doing many things in her life, she uttered them often. She hadn’t yet realized that the words ‘I Can’t Do It’ are a lie. She was not aware of the power of these words and that they eventually will show up in your life. So… if nothing works out the way you want it in your life, have you considered how often you use these words?
At the age of 88 she had a car accident. After that she lost her driver’s license and had to start using a walker to get around. Although more labored, she was still perfectly capable to get around, although slower. She could still cook, do yoga, exercise on her stationary bike and do many other things.
Yet, she always said: “I can’t do it! I can’t do anything anymore!”
Before the accident, she loved the freedom of having a car and go where ever she wanted. I Love that same freedom and understand that it is a big adjustment to it.
It IS hard to lose the freedom that a car gives you, and it IS hard to adjust to using a walker to move around. On top of that, when you have been conditioned to focus on what is missing, it’s so easy to focus on what you CAN’T do instead of what you CAN.
How Often Do You Use The Words ‘I Can’t?’
My mom is not different from you and me. How often do you tell yourSelf or someone else that you can’t do it? I still catch myself uttering those words at times where it may not be true. It feels like we’ve lived with that phrase as a default button that got stuck along the way.
After my recent trip to Denmark, it’s been staring me in my eyes. They are a lie! Don’t believe them! It’s just a program and is in need of a serious upgrade/
The Pattern Of Believing That You Can’t
I’m in Denmark again, visiting my now 92 yr old mom. She had a full stroke last year in September and lost most of her mobility, her ability to speak and to eat the way most of us do: with her mouth. It’s sad to see her go downhill like that. It’s not something any of us would wish upon even our worst enemy.
I spend about 5 hours with her every day at the assisted living facility, just doing the most obvious and ordinary things. I wipe her nose and mouth when her natural functions can’t do it for her. I read to her, talk to her, massage her and just love her up in the best way I can.
I was moved to write this blog post today because I see a pattern amongst the other residents. They are lost in this pattern and are suffering its consequences.
If Nothing Works Out The Way You Want
One sweet old lady keeps calling out: “Help, help me, help!” When you look at her, she looks like she has all her needs met and is in no kind of danger. I have asked her a few times how I can help her, when I run into her in the dining room. She says: “I can’t do anything, I can’t eat on my own, I can’t drink, I can’t, I can’t, help me, help.” She says this all while eating, drinking and being able to move around in her wheelchair.
Another sweet old man is doing the same. He is standing in the hallway with his walker calling out: “I can’t do it, I can’t, help me, oh no, I can’t, help, help.” Shortly after, he slowly makes his way into the ‘big room’ and sits down, eats, talks and seems content.
Of course I’m not saying that these people aren’t having a hard time. Many of them have various degrees of dementia, Alzheimers, poor agility, strokes, are tired and generally don’t have a great quality of life, even though they are well loved and taken care of. I do Feel for these lovely people. It’s not easy.
The Consequences Of Living By This Lie Are Not Worth It
They grew up in an era where they were deeply influenced by the challenges of war, post war and many other hardships in those days. They didn’t have the same access to all the amazing tools and teachings that you and I do today. Beliefs like “I can’t, I can’t do it” were a natural part of that era and nothing anyone could do much about.
However, spending time at this facility, it’s hard not to notice what happens when these deeply ingrained limitations are not questioned.
I’m well aware how those beliefs have influenced my perception too, and impacted many choices in my life. Yet, I feel blessed to have had so much access to all of the teachings that are more aligned with Truth, my God given abilities and capabilities.
Actually, my mom did have access to them too. She Loved reading spiritual books and talk about it. What I never really saw her do, was putting them into action, challenge her beliefs and embody what she knew on a conceptual level.
I think her generation residing in this assisted living home didn’t have the consciousness that so many of us do today. The programming of limitation and deficiency has been downloaded into all of us, just by taking birth on this planet. But nowadays we have the Consciousness to challenge and change these beliefs and start living a life outside of the limitations that my mom and her co-habitants must endure till the end.
If my mom had been able to put into practice what she so loved and believed in, maybe she would not have spoken the words “I can’t do it” so often. Maybe she would have put more energy into seeing herself well and capable instead of sick and incapable. Maybe she would have been more able to appreciate what she still was able to and maybe even imagine and look forward to a steady improvement.
You CAN
There is hope for all of us. We CAN conquer these beliefs. You CAN do what you want. I AM able to live the life I came here for without these restrictions, limitations and outdated programs.
You CAN move forward and follow the wisdom in your Hearts. You CAN be determined to not give in to the old stories that these lovely old people in Denmark did. They had no idea that they were just programs.
Any old program can be eliminated, erased or upgraded, once you see it’s just a program and not the truth of who you are.
Please, let’s decide once and for all that “I can’t do it” is a lie and not something you want to carry with you into a ripe age. Just start catching yourself when you hear yourself say those words, dismiss them and consider what you CAN do.
If my mom had not consistently uttered the words “I can’t do anything” while she was still perfectly capable, I sometimes wonder how she would be different today?
Be aware of what you say, think or feel. Words are powerful. Words combined with feelings even more so. Be sure you chose the right combination that you want to manifest in your life. You CAN start there.
Feel free to browse my website Divine Feminine Flow to see what kind of support you may need to make changes for the better. If you need support to change these old patters – and believe me, we all do – then please contact me for a free 30 min Discovery Session where we’ll explore what kind of support you might need and if I am the right mentor to receive it from. You can also start with my free ebook 5 Steps To Dive Into The Divine Feminine Flow and do a little practice on your own first.
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