Dear Friend,

The Power of Saying No!

Saying No is not for sissies. It takes a lot of courage to go against the stream and say No to what other are still saying Yes to. You can learn the power of saying No! When you Know in your Heart that something is not right for you or for the world anymore, you will feel a No in your body, your belly and your Being. It says No, and it is up to you and me to listen. Most of us are still so identified with fitting in and going along with the insanity that we are all seeing in the world, so we may not even ‘hear’ this No.

But it is there, isn’t it? Something inside of you Knows that you are done with this phase of life, but you may not know what to do with this No. It may be scary to trust it. What does that mean? What will I do instead?
What seems to be a common ‘next thing’ to do when we feel done with a situation or phase in life, but don’t know what to do with this feeling is that we resist what we are done with.

Remember Resistance?

Ah, do you remember my articles on resistance?
One way of seeing it is: What you resist, persists. I used the picture of 2 people pushing against a door with equal resistance and it shows you that all that you’ll get out of resisting is exhaustion. Not the desired outcome. When you learn to listen to the No inside and trust it, you will also let go of resisting. It is only as long as you don’t know what else to do yet, that you resist.

Pacifiers, Diapers and Kindergarten

When you are done with a phase in life you are done. Period. It is like a toddler outgrowing a pacifier. They don’t go back resisting the pacifier, they leave it behind.
Or when you outgrow diapers, you move to potty training, right? You don’t go back resisting the diapers, making them wrong or fighting with them. You simply leave them behind.
Same with Kindergarten. When you have gone through that phase, you move to 1st grade and don’t need to resist it. You leave it behind.

Why can’t we do that with other phases in life?

I think it is because we don’t know what else to do and that consciously saying No to the familiar way of our mind is scary. “Everybody else is still doing it!”
Well, not everybody. Luckily there are many people who are moving away from the mind and into the Heart. But just like moving from Kindergarten to 1st grade, here too we need to learn a new way.

Living From The Heart

Living from the Heart is new to most of us and can feel a little wobbly at first. During that phase it is helpful to get support from those who have entered or are entering their Heart and learn from them. Or hang out with other Heart Centered people. Then it is less scary, and can be quite exciting and inspiring.

Moving into the Heart is first opening the door to it by listening to It. Listening to what inspires you, enlivens you; what you long for and desire; what dreams, visions and new possibilities are living there. That is the next classroom we are organically lead into and the class that will teach and show us a new way of living.
I think you already know something about that, don’t you? What world do you imagine possible instead of the one we are living in now that seems to be losing its hold? What do you envision, see and feel? Who inspires you in that class?
That is the door. Now enter it and let It show you what your next phase looks like and how you need to live and what needs to change.

Losing Interest in Resisting

When you touch into your Heart and follow It, your interest in resisting the older phases (pacifiers, diapers and Kindergarten) will simply fade away. You don’t need to make them go away.
You will be so inspired and engaged in the new that you wouldn’t want to waste one second of it on something that you have now outgrown.
ALL Love,
Pernilla