Let me share with you the obvious reasons why True Self Love can ONLY make you happy, and why ONLY True Self Love can make you happy. You may inquire into which Self I’m referring to.
The other side of the Self Love coin is called lack of Self Love and this is the key to unhappiness. Wanna flip a coin?
The obvious is often hiding in plain sight and this list will confirm that and expose the obvious why Self Love is the key to happiness. Self Love is the KEY that turns unhappiness to Happiness. I am talking about the unhappiness that you experience because of self hatred, self loathing, self neglect and other negative self behaviors. They are abundant in the world and cause so much of the suffering, loneliness and pain, which can abundantly be turned into Joy, Contentment, Peace and Love with the right Key.
When you look at it that way, don’t you agree that it’s a no-brainer?
Let’s turn the Key and see what we find.
Self Love IS The Key To Happiness
When I Love mySelf:
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…I receive from mySelf what I normally want others to give me, without ever needing to leave my house, without giving up any of my values, or compromising what I Know is best for me. The Self that I Love is my True Self, who lives inside of me buried under a lot of self judgment, self doubt and self neglect. And I feel Happy.
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…I treat myself in a way that I want others to treat me. I kindly say No to people who treat me in a way that I choose not to treat mySelf anymore. I feel good about surrounding mySelf with people who treat me with respect and Love, because I do! I am content in my own kind and Loving company. And I feel Happy and am at peace.
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…I Listen to my own needs first before I take care of others. If I hear or Feel a clear No inside, I listen and honor it. If I hear or Feel a clear Yes inside, I go and help others and feel good about it. If I notice an inner ambivalence based on guilt and obligation, I know I will regret it later and gently say No to this guilt driven motivation. I save mySelf from an emotional hangover. If I Sense a clear No, wrapped in a Feeling that Knows it is the right thing to do (a Yes) without compromising myself, I gladly offer my support. And I am Happy and Feel empowered.
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…I Honor my own Wisdom and choose to speak it even though others may disagree. Holding back my True Voice yet one more time, for the sake of being liked and fitting in, will only make me feel worse. I am willing to speak what is in my Heart, Be True to mySelf and take the chance of not being liked. And I feel Happy along with a buzz of relief that I was so brave.
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…I Know that playing small and staying in my familiar, safe, confined parameters, suffocates me. Suffocating is not good for me, so I lovingly cheer for mySelf that I can stretch out of my comfort zone and be curious to see what happens. And I am Happy as I nurture my stretch marks.
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…I Feel a warm Glow inside that feeds my Soul and Strengthens my Heart. I Allow this Glow to grow and nurture every cell in my body that has been starving from my own lack of nurturance. And I am Happy and Feel comfortably Full.
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…I Rest in my Being and Feel Relaxed. I Know where True Happiness resides and don’t feel any lack or need to be filled up from the outside. And I Feel Happy and at Peace.
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…I Know when to reach out for help when in need and I Know whom I feel safe with. I don’t force mySelf to figure it all out on my own. I am Grateful that I Know who can Support me and what help I need. And I Feel Happy to not be alone.
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…I Trust my inner Guidance and Follow my Heart. I don’t let mySelf get distracted by other people’s opinions or disagreement of who I am or what I do. And I Feel Happy, Empowered and Fulfilled.
Please add what you Know happens to you when you Love yourSelf. Print it out and read it daily. Let the obvious embody itself as your natural body Wisdom.
Eventually the obvious becomes too obvious to miss and what was once in plain sight is now simply your obvious InSight.
The Key?
Oh, what happened to the Key? Is it still turned open?
I’ll leave this Key in your hands. You may decide to keep it turned towards Happiness … or turn it back to what it is like to not Love yourSelf.
Feel free to browse my website Divine Feminine Flow to see what kind of support you may need to learn to Love yourSelf. If you need support to change these old patters – and believe me, we all do – then please contact me for a free 30 min Discovery Session where we’ll explore what kind of support you might need and if I am the right mentor to receive it from. You can also start with my free ebook 5 Steps To Dive Into The Divine Feminine Flow and do a little practice on your own first.
Your words are beautiful
Thank you, Diana, I’m so glad you are enjoying this article. Love is beautiful, isn’t it – as is Self Love 🙂
Your own experience is a harsh teacher so learn from the mistakes of others.
It seems that way, doesn’t it. You may wonder why we even stray so far away from our Self and our Love for ourSelf that the further the distance, the more pain. So in that, the pain becomes your return ticket home. I sure hope this article helps others learn, so they don’t need to stray to far!
Hello Pernilla
Great post! your article was good. nicely described each line. Keep up the great work!