2. The Opposite of Resistance

I hope you found the exercise in it valuable and hopefully it helped you became aware of some of the unconscious resistance that not only blocks the way for the freedom you are looking for, but also feeds this block and keeps you stuck in what you don’t want. Today we’ll learn the opposite of resistance!

 It’s revealing, isn’t it, when you consciously feel it in your own body. Now let’s continue our exploration to liberation.

The ALL Formula: Allow – Listen – Love

If resisting keeps you stuck in what you don’t want, then maybe, just maybe…

 Allowing Will Set You Free!

 Let’s try a little exercise

• Think of something in your life that upsets you and creates an uncomfortable feeling inside. This feeling is what you normally want to get rid of, simply because it does not feel good. How do you resist this feeling?What do you do to not feel this feeling?

• Feel what happens in your body when you think about this upsetting circumstance or belief.
• Now instead of trying to get rid of this feeling, I invite you to justAllow it for a moment. You do that by gently taking a breath into the feeling (instead of breathing shallowly to avoid it) and make a kind gesture to the feeling as if saying ‘Hello’ (instead of ‘Go away!’)

• Take one more breath, letting the feeling know that you are going to allow a space for it for now.

• Notice what happens when you consciously Allow a feeling that you normally resist.

 This is very common, especially when you practice it more often.

Allowing Is The Opposite Of Resistance

Allowing in itself is actually your natural effortless state. But because we have been so conditioned to resisting, we are now actively using Allowing, our natural state, as an action, simply to disengage resisting. For now, we can engage our natural state to disengage and neutralize our unnatural state of resisting.

That way, the energy you engaged in resisting and trying to get rid of something is now freed up and can be applied elsewhere (we’ll address that in the next email in a few days).

But today I want to invite you to feel how good it feels to Allow vs resist and what a difference it makes in your body. Notice how much energy is being liberated this way and how much better you feel. Notice your breathing change. Notice your shoulders and neck relax. Notice the Space inside that is made available!

I know it’s common to believe that if you allow that which you want to get rid of, it will take you over instead.

But now that you tried it, what is really true?

It is a powerful way to relax and create more Space inside. And soon you’ll learn more about what this new found Space has in store for you. I’ll be sharing this with you in a couple days.

You’ll learn that his Space holds the Wisdom inside your body and Being, that is overlooked when you resist your experiences. Instead of Listening to your own Wisdom, you may have been listening to your mind and believing resisting will give you what you want.

Stay tuned for the next post for more…

you’re about to discover a whole new part of you – one that are going to like!

Please practice the exercise of allowing a feeling or thought every time you tense up and try to get rid of it. Eventually it will become 2nd nature and you’ll experience something first hand and ask yourself:

Is This What Eckhart And Katie Are Referring To?

Is THIS what Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie mean when they talk about Presence and Being with What Is?

You can answer this question from your own authority now, directly experienced in your body when you learn the Art of Allowing.

Check back in a few days for my next post because I’m going to share with you exactly how you can release your resistance, and become empowered to live on purpose and in alignment with your mission.

These are such exciting times of great change and most of us can use a little help during this transition. It is easier to learn to thrive if you find

For now, continue practicing Allowing your inner experience and continue to notice what happens as you develop the habit to do this on a regular, consistent basis. Feel free to share any of your experiences, questions, or comments with me by replying to this email. I love hearing from you!

Have a wonderful day today – filled with the Spaciousness and relaxation that comes with Allowing.

ALL Love,
Pernilla

Important P.S. And before we go, I also want to make sure there are no misunderstandings regarding Allowing because many of my clients have asked me about this.
When I teach the Art of Allowing, I always refer to Allowing the inner experiences and feelings and not outer circumstances if they are not in your best interest.

If you are in an abusive situation please don’t think you need to Allow that!

That would not be healthy for you or anyone else. You’d want to get out of that situation and into a more loving, safe, healthy, feel good relationship.
So in that situation, you would allow yourself to Feel the Feelings that arise. You may recognize a feeling of No in there too. This No is very important and needs to be Allowed and honored. You can go here to listen to the difference between resisting something and saying No. It is like day and night.

By allowing yourself to feel the feelings, including the No, you make Space to receive the deeper Wisdom. This Wisdom will inform you about how to act, what to say, when to go and when to stay.

Please know that you never need to allow yourself to become a door mat!