Getting Out of Your Own Way Tip #10
We’ve flipped the coin now and are going to put our attention (park our attention) on the Flow. A long time ago we left the Divine Feminine Flow so we could try to create a life on our own. Have you ever heard about the prodigal son or daughter who left the Father’s House? Mother’s House? Well, that’s you and me. We went far and wide to explore the world as separate Beings, to see what we could do on our own. We do get a straight A for our efforts, but I’m not so sure about our grades for what we created as the end result.
So … shall we turn around and go back Home to our Father’s or Mother’s House, which I call the Divine Feminine Flow inside and open up to the Love and Fulfillment It has in store for us?
Waking Up To My Purpose
After extensive searching, reaching out and turning my soul inside out, I finally reached the place inside about a year ago, where my purpose for Being on this planet revealed itself. It’s actually not quite true, because it had already been staring in my face for a long time, but it felt too beautiful, too big, too amazing for my ego to embrace that as my True expression in this lifetime. All that time I squirmed around it, tried to call my work by other names, introduced myself as something smaller than what I knew was True, and I probably did a lot of other things that distracted me away from my True Calling.
After working with a wonderful Branding expert/wizard, Sabine Messner in a small group, I could not get away from it any longer. As a small intimate group, we could really witness each other during and after some of the ceremonies and exercises, and help each other see and embrace what was revealed.
Being Seen Can Be Scary
I was Seen ……….. Holy Sh..! Get me out of here.
I had to take some really deep breaths to be able to start owning my Calling. The support of the group was essential. Their witnessing and feed back prevented me from making myself smaller – again. I had to seriously breathe deeply through the fear in order to make room for Me. It became obvious that I had always known it, even talked and written about it, yet never taken full ownership for it.
I mean … who am I to think I am so Holy to do that kind of work and help people back into their Divine Flow?
Who Am I To Do Such Mighty Work?
It’s easy to answer that question from my Essence when all the wrapping has been removed. However, with the wrapping it’s really hard to own our Essence and its True Expression and let it shine.
Hard or not, we are made for it, it’s what we came here for, and the time is now to step into that Calling. And so I have – and now invite you to explore that side of yourself too.
Playing Small
Oh, how long have we played it small in order to fit in and not become outcasts, burned, killed, maimed and what not – again!
Of course we are afraid to shine our Light and own our Essence in a world where those who came before us were killed, one by one.
When I started stepping more out into the world with my work as an author, speaker, radio show host, teacher, therapist, mentor, etc, it felt like I walked into a wall where the fear of being killed again wanted to pull me back.
I had to do a lot of inner work until I didn’t really care anymore if I would be ‘taken out’ again. I knew I didn’t want to hide behind pretense and smallness anymore so others wouldn’t be threatened by me being my True Self.
Shamed To Be Me?
I am still in the process of liberating a part of me that is very convinced that I’ll be shamed and told “Who do you think you are to …?” when I keep stepping further into the world and gently embody my True Calling. Yet, that one is dissolving too as I park my attention more and more in the Divine Feminine Flow. She is a strong solvent for these false identities, once we have surrendered them – and ourSelves into the Flow and given up hiding them or behind them as in my case.
Tip #10:
Let yourSelf open up to something Good that you already know about yourself.
It can be anything that you know is good about yourSelf, or that you are good at. Just notice your relationship to this part of you. Do you hide it? Make it sound less than it is? Or maybe exaggerate it because you really want to be seen in it, but feel uncomfortable about sharing it authentically?
We’ll Flow more the next few days as we are Getting Out of Our Own Ways.
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Thanks for being an inspiring example of someone stepping out and answering your calling. I like how you state our false identities dissolve when we’re in the Divine Flow. Nothing is better than being in our true essence.
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It sounds like you Know that too, Jennifer and have stepped in too. It does feel good, doesn’t it 🙂
What a powerful posting Pernilla. Yes, how important it is to look at what “goodness” do we already know about our Self. As I was growing my self-esteem (and continue to do so) I would think of 10 things I liked about myself. And would think that each one was worth 10% of my total self esteem. For example, it was easy to say that my mothering was 10% if my self-esteem. Thus, when I came up with 10 examples and each was 10% of the whole, it helped me realize that I was OK. This may seem silly…but it really helped me over the years…to honor who I was and to increase my self-respect. I so appreciate your posting Pernilla.
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Isn’t it amazing how we need to remind ourselves that we are OK? It blows my mind as I have been moving out of the belief that I am NOT OK and see life from outside that veil. It’s confirming what you write here, Sharon, how you realized you are OK by looking at the good that you know about you.
It doesn’t matter how we do it, but parking our attention on the good that we already are helps dissolve the boulders that prevent us from seeing our deeper truth
For me, the secret to finding my way to the calling for my life was letting go of messages that I internalized as a child about being a poor public speaker. I can trace that belief back to an oral book report I gave in the 6th grade where my teacher corrected my pronunciation of the main character’s name. Ever afterward, I was petrified of making a mistake in front of people like that and that fear kept my light from shining while speaking to a group of any size.
As a result, the advice I often give people is look in your past for incidents where you felt shame or embarrassment or ridicule when giving your best, or being yourself. Behind those experiences, you’ll find the clues that will lead you to your calling, or higher self, or the answer to “what do I do with this life?”
Incidentally, later I learned that the character’s name I “mispronounced” would have been totally correct in a different part of the world. It is only here in the US that we pronounce the way my teacher wanted me to.
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We are so receptive as children and take in criticism as ‘the highest truth’ because we don’t have the filter and discernment yet to know other’s opinions as just being their opinions and not having anything to do with us.
I am so glad you got to move through those misunderstandings, Lesa and I agree, that so often we find our deeper truths later in life when we heal the trauma that covered them. And yet, without these childhood experiences we wouldn’t be the amazing Beings that we are today. Unfortunately trauma and pain do seem to make us stronger and are opportunities to find a deeper part of ourSelves.
What do they say again: Your mess becomes your message 🙂