Dear Friend,
It is OK to have what you want
If I tell you: “It is OK to have what you want,” what is your response?
In my work as a Hakomi Practitioner we often use probes to bring up unconscious material that restricts us in the way we live our life.
The sentence above works well as a probe, and will bring up different responses in different people. Did you notice your response inside?
Let’s slow it down and do it again, so you can really notice/feel what happens inside of you when you hear it: “It is OK to have what you want.”
Did your breathing change? Did you relax? Tighten up? Do you believe it or do you think: Oh, I wish!?
What did you notice?
Restrictions in the Grand Flow of Life
I like to use myself as a research lab to find out where I still feel restricted in the Grand Flow of Life, where restrictions do not exist.
About a month ago I shared with you how quitting eating sugar brought up the inner rebel who does not like to be told what she can and cannot do. This was totally understandable when the chocolate was a way to compensate for spending too much time at the computer. It also made me curious and I wanted to know more about that pattern.
I found a sense of feeling deprived as part of my underlying belief system. Deprived? Deprived of what?
I felt deprived because part of me was denying myself to have what my Heart longs for.
Really. And this is what I saw:
Do you feel deprived?
Making that feeling conscious is an essential first step.
I started realizing how most of us at the core are denying ourselves to feel good, to feel happy, to feel OK about having what we want etc, and then we have to compensate for that denying with acquiring outer things or experiences.
There seems to be an underlying conditioning to deny our own beautiful, loving, joyful Nature and instead believe we need something from the outside to make up for it.
My probe above will reveal this denial of Goodness in your life and I have found it incredibly powerful to really feel the OK’ness to have what I want as a feeling. I am not talking about going out and acquire things on the outside. That would be trying to make up for the feeling that it is not OK to have what I want.
It is in the FEELING
This is a very important distinction: It is in the feeling of it.
By feeling that it is not OK to have what you want, you cut yourself off from who you are, your True Being and all that you already are. In my experience, the way my True Being expresses Itself in the world is through the movement of my deSires and feelings. They are the ones that move me in the right direction to make me experience my completeness and fulfillment.
So by denying these deSires and feelings, we deny our divine expression.
I know that desires are a ‘no no’ for many spiritual people, and that is why I spell it with a capital S. If you want to read more about the True meaning of deSires according to Pernilla, please go to my blog on that subject.
Your experience
Let’s look at it in your experience. Do you feel deprived? What experience is lacking in your life? Do you tend to blame other people for it? The world? Your childhood?
If you do, it is because you have not fully seen where the initial deprivation starts: In you!
So a better question is: What are you denying yourself? How are you depriving yourself? What do you want so bad, but don’t feel it is OK to have?
Uncovering this subject of deprivation will change your life.
I am now feeling a sense of freedom that goes so much deeper than before and feels like an open door for all Good to Flow out of me. I am simply not blocking the Flow anymore.
It is the law of attraction in reverse.
I have so much more to share on this subject, and will do so in a later blog.
For now I am inviting you to explore how and where you are denying yourself the feeling that it is OK to have what you want.
Once that feeling is allowed and welcomed, you will notice that you don’t really want all that much anymore. You Are it.
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